5 QUESTIONS WITH DEANDRA JAMES

Deandra is a lifestyle blogger, podcaster, and provides consultations to future and current bloggers. She’s the owner of The Black Princess Diaries and has been blogging for almost three years. Through her blog, she’s able to help others and speak on different open discussion topics including bullying and body positivity.

 

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1. If you could alter any part of your body, what would it be and why? 

 

 

Sad to say, there’s a lot to choose from, but if I had to pick one thing then I would say my it’s between my stomach or my butt. I say my stomach because it’s something I’ve always struggled with. I don’t want to lose a drastic amount of weight, but just enough to be healthy and happy. I say my butt she’s a little small for me. With that being said, I’m not going for a bubble butt like the media loves to showcase, but just a cute round shape. I know that I can alter these with working out and everything, but I just have such a hard time and being able to alter them instantly would be amazing. Regardless, I’m trying to learn to love the body I have now. If I don’t, then I’ll never love it, whether I can alter it or not.

 

2. Do you believe your self-esteem should be crushed before you become truly confident? Why or why not? 

 

 

Not at all! It’s all about your mindset. Self-esteem and confidence is something learned as a child. There are some of the most confident children out there and I’m just so amazed and wish I had their level of confidence. Things start to change a bit when you get older and start to notice a trend on what’s shown across social media and on TV when it comes to body types, skin color, etc. This being said, some people don’t lose that confidence or high self-esteem they had since they were a child. There may be moments where someone loses themselves, it happens when you’re getting older, but they gain it right back. When someone has their self-esteem crushed, there’s a possibility they never get that confidence or high self-esteem back. Words hurt, and as much as we may want to keep the positive ones in our heads, the ones that hurt seem to last a lot longer.

 

3. What’s your message to bullies? 

 

    To all the bullies out there, I highly encourage you to think about your actions and words. Maybe you think you’re “just joking around”, but it’s not a joke. Maybe you’re going to through something yourself and feel you need to hurt others to feel better, but I know you still feel like crap inside and you know it too. Maybe you just want to tear people down, but you’re only making those people stronger in the long run. I know because I was bullied for most of my life, but the older I get, the less I’m allowing words from my childhood affect how I see myself. The people who have suffered from bullying will grow, but until you learn to do the same, you’ll always hide behind an ugly mask.

 

 

   4. What do you think are the qualities of a princess? 

 

  

    I think what makes a princess is her character. Despite what some people may think, you don’t have to be perfect to consider yourself a princess. A princess can be clumsy, curse like a sailor, make many mistakes, etc. At the end of the day, it’s all about the character and about how you feel inside. You have to treat others with kindness as well as yourself.  Also, it doesn’t hurt to add a cute tiara and dress to the mix!

 

 

  5. How do you master the art of not caring what other people think?

 

  

   You know, honestly, I think everyone cares what others think at least a little bit. When you’re in the entrepreneurship world, you kind of have to, to an extent. I think the real question is, how do you master the art of not letting those thoughts and opinions get to you? As someone who struggles on the daily with low self-esteem, I don’t have an answer for myself, personally. However, one thing I can say is that you just have to be confident in what you’re doing. It doesn’t matter if it’s a life choice you’re making like a career, or if it’s just an outfit you chose to wear that day. You have to make sure you’re solid in your daily choices. Opinions are free, everyone has one, and will voice them as loud and proud as they please whether asked or not. That’s why, you have to be just as loud and proud. If someone wants to question why you made the choice you did, the best response is “Because I can.” If they have a problem with it, then that sounds like a personal problem for them and has absolutely nothing to do with you!